A Player is not someone who gets theirs and leaves a trail of broken hearts. A Player is not someone who jumps from one shallow bed to the next. A Player is that person who lives life like a legend, puts a woman into a passionate romance and works his job like he built the company. This Player, in particular, has covered the globe as a photojournalist. Camera in one hand and laptop in the other, I’ve seen the best and the worst across time zones and international waters. Through these travels, I learned the foundations of how to play.
Defined as the act of enticing someone into a desired state or position,Seduction is a portion of the game that forever requires leveling up. Seduction is not lying. Seduction is not moving in on the drunken girl, and it is not nagging a woman to death. Seduction is an art; seduction is a skill. And seduction is what Players-in-training will learn in this article. The art of seduction, that is.
Some misconceptions about seduction focus on looks, money and lines. A man could be Adonis himself, but if he believes that he doesn’t need seduction because of his perfect teeth and chiseled body, he is wrong — and he’ll sleep alone for a long time. If a man thinks the role of cash in his pocket puts him in the role of lothario, he’ll find his bed as cold as his cash. Last but not least, lines will lead a man anywhere but to seduction. Seduction is founded in confidence. A man without self-confidence is not a Player . Without inner strength, a man will fall back on cheap pickup lines and lame game to try and trap a lady. Being honest is much more alluring to women, and a man who is grounded, solid and aware of who he is and what he brings sets him ahead of the pack.
Watching Flamenco dancers in Portugal under torchlight, I found myself sipping sangria and talking to a woman. I was honest and confident. I asked her questions about who she was, where she was from and why she was there. I took interest in her and showed it. There was no need for lines or bull, and this exotic beauty invited me back to her room. What happened afterward would make for a great article itself, but Players don’t play and tell. And anyway, we’re not here to talk about European escapades; we’re here to learn how to be seductive.
Elements of seduction
Understanding the fundamentals of seduction is key to developing your skills in the art. Remember, like any art, learning how to swoon and romantically persuade is an ever-growing, ever-evolving set of abilities. Do not abuse these skills; cultivate them.
Physical Attraction
Be clean, well-dressed and well-groomed. You do not need to be Bradd Pitt , but you do need to look your best. There is no second chance at first impressions. When you look your best, you act your best.
Tip: Hygiene cannot be stressed enough. If you lack fashion sense, that is fine. You’re here to learn. Consider good shoes, pressed shirt and pants, and a classy watch. Class goes far toward seduction.
Be clean, well-dressed and well-groomed. You do not need to be Bradd Pitt , but you do need to look your best. There is no second chance at first impressions. When you look your best, you act your best.
Tip: Hygiene cannot be stressed enough. If you lack fashion sense, that is fine. You’re here to learn. Consider good shoes, pressed shirt and pants, and a classy watch. Class goes far toward seduction.
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Harmlessness:
By nature, at that first meeting, a woman worth your time will be wary of you. Do not appear dangerous (this is not high school, Mr. Bad Boy) and do not expect her to give you the keys to her place. She will be cautious, and she will be worth it.
Tip: Smile, but do not leer. Do not ogle her or objectify her body. Keep your mind on listening and engaging her, because a woman will know if you are ignoring the words coming out of her mouth for her cleavage.
By nature, at that first meeting, a woman worth your time will be wary of you. Do not appear dangerous (this is not high school, Mr. Bad Boy) and do not expect her to give you the keys to her place. She will be cautious, and she will be worth it.
Tip: Smile, but do not leer. Do not ogle her or objectify her body. Keep your mind on listening and engaging her, because a woman will know if you are ignoring the words coming out of her mouth for her cleavage.
Charm:
Seduction can be broken down into an equation: 10% projection of success, 10% appearance, 10% intelligence, and 70% charm.
Tip: Charm is another art. It means making a person aware that you feel good about them. You exude feelings of interest, of enjoying their company and of paying attention without asking or expecting anything from them. A key charming gesture is making eye contact. If seduction and charm speak at a deeper level, then the eyes are truly windows to the soul. Getting to her body starts with getting to her mind.
Intellectual Magnetism
A woman will want a man’s mind before she will want his body. Ladies are mental and emotional rather than visual and physical.
Tip: Ignite a woman’s mind. Engage her thoughts and emotions with questions about who she is and her opinions. Do not interview her but provoke thoughtful conversation. Avoid discussing sex or previous relationships. Give her your unbridled and focused attention. Remember Barcelona? I do, and so does a young lady halfway around the world.
Emotional Seductiveness
Women are creatures of emotion — hence the estrogen hormone. You can raise a woman's interest level in you by making her feel those warm and fuzzy feelings.
Tip: I have only four words for you: excitement, excitement, excitement, and spontaneity. Make her adrenaline rush without stalking or scaring her, and she'll be addicted to you.
Chivalry
They say that chivalry is dead. While untrue, this myth can work in your favor when you open a door, pull out a chair or perform another act of a well-trained gentleman. It will shock a woman into a state of absolute interest and put her on the path of seduction.
Tip: Learn etiquette, for that is the true foundation of a gentleman. Conduct yourself with the best manners, and that means going beyond holding a lady’s hand as she steps over water or holding open the door for her. . Many women have not seen this kind of chivalry in years.
Spirit of Essence
Essence is a blending of all the aforementioned elements. Insert the choices, opinions and ideas that make you who you are, and you’ll be on the way to learning the art of seduction.
Tip: Sincerity is the key to unlocking seduction. In the spirit of essence and the traits you exhibit, be genuine. People, especially women, can see through false interest easily. You do not want to appear insincere while you are engaging someone.
Seduction can be broken down into an equation: 10% projection of success, 10% appearance, 10% intelligence, and 70% charm.
Tip: Charm is another art. It means making a person aware that you feel good about them. You exude feelings of interest, of enjoying their company and of paying attention without asking or expecting anything from them. A key charming gesture is making eye contact. If seduction and charm speak at a deeper level, then the eyes are truly windows to the soul. Getting to her body starts with getting to her mind.
Intellectual Magnetism
A woman will want a man’s mind before she will want his body. Ladies are mental and emotional rather than visual and physical.
Tip: Ignite a woman’s mind. Engage her thoughts and emotions with questions about who she is and her opinions. Do not interview her but provoke thoughtful conversation. Avoid discussing sex or previous relationships. Give her your unbridled and focused attention. Remember Barcelona? I do, and so does a young lady halfway around the world.
Emotional Seductiveness
Women are creatures of emotion — hence the estrogen hormone. You can raise a woman's interest level in you by making her feel those warm and fuzzy feelings.
Tip: I have only four words for you: excitement, excitement, excitement, and spontaneity. Make her adrenaline rush without stalking or scaring her, and she'll be addicted to you.
Chivalry
They say that chivalry is dead. While untrue, this myth can work in your favor when you open a door, pull out a chair or perform another act of a well-trained gentleman. It will shock a woman into a state of absolute interest and put her on the path of seduction.
Tip: Learn etiquette, for that is the true foundation of a gentleman. Conduct yourself with the best manners, and that means going beyond holding a lady’s hand as she steps over water or holding open the door for her. . Many women have not seen this kind of chivalry in years.
Spirit of Essence
Essence is a blending of all the aforementioned elements. Insert the choices, opinions and ideas that make you who you are, and you’ll be on the way to learning the art of seduction.
Tip: Sincerity is the key to unlocking seduction. In the spirit of essence and the traits you exhibit, be genuine. People, especially women, can see through false interest easily. You do not want to appear insincere while you are engaging someone.
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Greatest turn-ons
Seduction does not end in the bedroom. That is merely the beginning of it. Ricardo Montalban, the epitome of smooth, was quoted as saying that any man can seduce multiple women but that a true man knows how to keep one woman happy for the rest of her life. Truer words were never spoken. Keeping your lady involved and interested is based on providing the fuel to her ongoing flames. Here are four tips that will help you keep your woman seduced long after that first night.
Make her feel beautiful
Fulfilling her desire to be desired is a major point for continued seduction. Any woman wants to know that she is attractive. Tell her she is beautiful sporadically and without provocation. Avoid using this before you initiate sex so that it is not a tool but a truth.
Fulfilling her desire to be desired is a major point for continued seduction. Any woman wants to know that she is attractive. Tell her she is beautiful sporadically and without provocation. Avoid using this before you initiate sex so that it is not a tool but a truth.
You're pleasure-oriented
Having her pleasure the end goal will truly turn her on. It will let her know that you are doing more than serving your own interest. It will remind her that in addition to being confident and secure, you are also fun and considerate.
Give her all the pleasure she desires
Pleasure her sexually until she cannot stand it. Do the things that her girlfriends wish someone does for them. Let her blush with the knowldege that her man has taken her to new heights of pleasure without her begging or nagging him. When a woman is pleasured, she will reciprocate in kind — and maybe more.
Orgasmic variety
Your thrust is not enough. A woman’s entire body and mind is an erogenous zone, and her G Spot is all over. Stimulating her thoughts is the first step to stimulating her sexually. Her orgasm starts anywhere from breakfast in the morning through love notes at lunch to the bedroom that night. By the time you actually touch her, her orgasm should be moments away.
Having her pleasure the end goal will truly turn her on. It will let her know that you are doing more than serving your own interest. It will remind her that in addition to being confident and secure, you are also fun and considerate.
Give her all the pleasure she desires
Pleasure her sexually until she cannot stand it. Do the things that her girlfriends wish someone does for them. Let her blush with the knowldege that her man has taken her to new heights of pleasure without her begging or nagging him. When a woman is pleasured, she will reciprocate in kind — and maybe more.
Orgasmic variety
Your thrust is not enough. A woman’s entire body and mind is an erogenous zone, and her G Spot is all over. Stimulating her thoughts is the first step to stimulating her sexually. Her orgasm starts anywhere from breakfast in the morning through love notes at lunch to the bedroom that night. By the time you actually touch her, her orgasm should be moments away.
anyone can master the art of seduction
With the aforementioned tips, you can raise your Player game with the art of seduction. Confidence, honesty and a slow reveal will lead you to a new level of pleasure. Like any art, seduction takes time and practice. Seduction is smooth; Seduction is about the mind, not the body. Remember the words of Michelangelo, a great master of craft, who said: “A man paints with his brains and not with his hands.” Art class is over, start painting and don’t hate the Player.
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